Feeling helpless when things seem out of control? Read this.

One of the most heartbreaking states of mind I see in my pet owning clients is that of helplessness. They’re doing the best for their pets, getting them the best medical treatment, even bringing in complementary and energy therapists like myself, yet there are still times when things seem out of control, when an outcome isn’t guarenteed. There are times when we feel that we just don’t know what to do.

That can’t be helped, right?

After all, it’s a rare person that can look on calmly whilst waiting for test results, whilst their pets are in surgery, when their mobility is deteriorating or when there is an unknown illness so they don’t know how to treat it.  So, we just put up with it, right?

Here’s the good news.

We don’t have to put up with feeling helpless.

Helplessness is an emotion, it’s a form of energy and we can consciously change our energy. So, whilst it’s understandable and justifiable to feel that way in certain situations, it doesn’t mean that we have to give in to it.

When we are feeling fearful or helpless to ‘make things better’ we rob ourselves of vital energy, its harder to make sound decisions and it’s harder to be ‘present’ for the pet we love.

The good news is that we have more power over our emotions than most of us realize, we actually have choice in how we feel and respond to different situations. That’s what I show my clients, so they can cope better when stressful situations occur with their pets.

That can be a hard concept to grasp, especially when it comes to matters of the heart, to our beloved pets, and people can get angry when I say that how they feel is THEIR choice because they’re sure that if they had any choice they wouldn’t feel that way but that the circumstances dictate it.

Still, I stand by my belief that we don’t have to be ruled by our emotions – thats why I do the work I do with people, helping them to clear their fears and reactions and the underlying patterns that exacerbate them. They become liberated from the grip of fear and are empowered to stay strong even in challenging situations.

Of course, the stronger and calmer they are, the more that supports their pets healing process. I can never over emphasise how much that helps the pets. When I do energy therpaies for pets, the results are always enhanced when the owner actively works through their emotional reactions to their pets conditions, always.

This is what I want you to know.

It isn’t about being in control of outcomes, there are some otucomes we just can’t control or change, no matter how desperate we are to do so. So, it’s not a case of changing your emotion to change an outcome.

At the end of the day it’s about choosing to feel differently because it’s preferable, it’s more empowering and means you don’t spend your life being thrown around in an emotional storm every time something you don’t want comes along.

So, the bottom line in this –  you can save yourself from feeling helpless by training yourself to think differently and react differently. Intention is a powerful thing and if you have an intention to feel strong and calm no matter what you build a strong foundation. Build on this with practices such as meditation (a great way to stop worries and fears from cluttering up your mind) and EFT tapping* (to eliminate the false beliefs that keep you reacting to siutations rather than consciously responding) and you’re right on track.

I know this because this is the work I do with people and I see them change, so I know you can do it too.

Here’s a quick EFT tapping video to help bring relief if you are overwhelmed by feelings of helplessness.

As ever, feel free to share this post with your friends and don’t be shy about leaving comments. I’d love to hear how you deal with strong emotions and challenging situations.

Thank you for reading,

Ferris

* Click here for more info on EFT tapping